My Mom's Group is amazing--they are wonderful, welcoming women. But still, sometimes I feel a little out of the loop, which is probably just a by-product of the fact that I don't go to the same church as most of them do, so I just don't see everyone as often as they generally see each other. Still, it sometimes makes me feel insecure, which means that when they do invite me to come do something, often the safety and warmth of the couch seems much more appealing. It's expected. I fit there nicely...no pressure. No small talk. No wondering whether people like me. No finagling the budget so that I can afford dinner and drinks. It's much less effort to stay at home.
Still, over the past year there have been a few women who have really tried to invite me to things and to include me...to make me feel welcome, and to encourage me to come and be a part of things. I have so appreciated it.It has been a huge blessing to me. So, I try to step outside of my comfort zone--to go when invited (Lord knows I need to get out of the house more often) laugh and smile, even if it's a little uncomfortable for me right now. Because the only way to make friends, is to be a friend yourself...to give a little of yourself.
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